There are the classic wedding traditions that many partake in during their big day, from the first dance to the bouquet toss to cutting the cake. But do you know the tradition behind the tradition? Today, I get the joy of diving into the sweet icing-filled traditions of cake!

History of Wedding Cakes

Wedding cakes first began as a symbol of fertility. According to, Emily Lael Aumiller, owner of Lael Cakes, stated that “in Roman times, grains of wheat represented fertility and were thrown at the newly married to ensure fruitfulness.” The grain evolved into loaves of grain, which then led to the wheat being “baked into cakes.” As time went on, cakes developed into the traditional cakes we are familiar with today, and “as a sign of prosperity, families began to stack the cakes.”

Cake Cutting

The cake cutting represents the first activity done as a married couple, but this was not always done together. The Spruce Eats wrote that initially, “the bride did this act alone to symbolize the loss of her virginity.” Brides would then cut and serve up the entire cake to their guests.

The Macky House stated that “in modern times, the Cake Cutting has a slightly different symbolism. The hand of the groom is placed over the hand of the bride when cutting the cake to symbolize his support for her and her promise to take care of him and their family. Furthermore, the fact that couples are encouraged to cut from the bottom tier symbolizes the longevity and continuity of their relationship.”

Feeding Each Other the Cake

After the cake cutting, then comes the tradition of the bride and groom feeding each other a small bite of cake. This symbolizes commitment, and shows your love and affection towards each other.

This activity has changed into, at some weddings, a way for the couple to get silly and smash the cake into each other’s face. So if that is your way of showing your love and affection towards each other, I guess you are keeping the tradition!

The Cake Pull

A fun Southern custom is a cake pull. The bridesmaids are invited to participate in the cake pull for good luck and fortune. Ribbons are attached  to small charms that are tucked under or between the layers of wedding cake. The charms represent relationships, children, money, luck, etc. The ribbons are pulled out right before the cake cutting. Alternatively, the cake pulls could be put in a smaller cake or individual desserts at a bridal shower or bachelorette party.

Cake Inspiration and Vendors

Are you looking for inspiration for your wedding cake? Check out our Pinterest page filled with cakes from our wedding’s here at Molto Bella Weddings and Events. Or are you looking for a cake vendor? Check out our Vendor Directory. We are aware of how many people and businesses are required to pull off your event. Our directory is filled with vendors to make your planning a little easier.

Resources: Brides.comThe Spruce EatsThe Macky House, The Knot